They both are of driving age, but they may not have their own cars yet. She is my oldest so this is a whole new world for me. I know this is totally old fashioned, especially in today's society, but it gives my husband and I peace of mind, we meet whoever is the the important one at the moment and it helps them with boundries and we as the parents are the bad guys for setting rules and it worked so well my daughters now fiance came and asked for permission to marry our daughter. The 24 year old needs to be responsible and accountable, as well as being mindful of not crossing certain boundaries. And sometimes when kids are with older people it can cause some psychological issues in their lives down the road. You would be suprised at the number of male students I have who feel it is okay for them to talk to another girl and have female friends while dating someone, but they don't believe the girl they are dating should have male friends or hang out with males except for them.
Even on school nights I hear about my students being out until after 10 and on weekends it seems like some are literally out all night. My parents always had to meet, and approve of my dates. We can discuss whether we think teen sex is a good idea, but the fact of the matter is, what we think may not dictate what our kids do. I expect her home at 12 on the dot! Tonight we're going to watch the new Sherlock at his apartment and binge-watch some Game of Thrones. Not many seventeen year olds can say the same. I consider them to be prowlers looking for someone to prey on.
Dude the truth of the matter is that girl isn't done devoloping emotionally, physically and mentally. Also, if you haven't, talk to her about what is fair - jealousy, etc. Things have been hard, I've had to deal with some pretty awful family situations including the loss of my father and the all-but-loss of my mother who is no longer present. I just wanted to say sometimes love works out. It is normal, despite what society claims to hold taboo.
It helps if the 17 year old is mature for her age and her parents are cool with you. If you have an open relationship with her and she doesn't do anything to cause you to question her honesty,or integrety,then don't second guess her ability to make the right decisions. They are role models for my younger kids. The following weekend I'd be sitting watching tv with dad! But make sure her parents are okay with it, otherwise you could land yourself in some hot water. Other parents might be ok with it.
Speak to her about common sense too, even though she is almost 17. Girls start dating boys their own age, and maybe 1 yr older, but that's all. I know both the boy and his parents. And still, you had to go through my parents to spend time with me outside of school. I could write a pretty funny book about the experiences. I think the curfew needs to be set based on the activity, but as a general rule there is no reason to be out later than 11, weekends only. Keep that one under watch, seeing as she's not even yet sixteen and likely enjoys the idea of an older man being into her.
Support her and be there for her. Older guys go for young girls sometimes a use truth is if you have good morals they arent very many 20 + year old single good girls. I would allow her to go out alone with a date. Not to say that you shouldn't date. But they're often willing to talk about things their friends or other girls at school are doing. As hard as it will be, help her realize that they should not ignore their other friends.
We have 2 kids and a couple cats. Friendships can be built by a 16 and a 24 year old- like a big brother little sister type of relationship or vise versa. After years of torment,my sisters and I learned a few tactics and learned how to get around some of daddys strict rules. What kind of values you want her to uphold. I dated a boy for over 3 years and thought long and hard before making that step. Most guys who go after young girls are creeps losers who want one thing. Cause she was raised good, was mature for her age, and had more sense then the 21 year olds at the time.
I played 4 years of collegiate ball and had pretty girls my age at the time I picked my fiancée now who was 16 at time over them. Even though I thought they were really strict at the time, and I did rebel a bit behind their backs, overall I think they handled it the best way they could by being involved and informed. I do have a daughter who just turned 17 last week and her boyfriend of 6 months just turned 18. They are planning on what they are going to do after graduation and want to be together. Granted younger females tend to want to date older guys since, they are more mature than someone their own age.
What could they possibly have in common? If she was 23 and he was 7 yrs older, no problem. Our relationship is better than ever. You have all the time to be with each other. With an older teen you have to discuss some of it in general terms because they get embarrassed so easily. We've now been seeing each other for about five months. A five to ten years age difference when both parties are older than twenty is fine. Anyway,my sisters and I had to become more creative.
Make sure she knows that all avenues of communication are open and that you will respond in a non judgemental fashion. There will be a serious power imbalance and the older person has the ability to manipulate the younger person. This dude is with her so he can get it in. It's just that those early years are pretty full of change. Mom and dad had enough to handle,with Seven I would imagine the mere thought of one of us coming to him with the news of a pregancy,would have quite literally sent him over the edge! Don't be sad if your romance wears off eventually. They had to actually come in and gasp talk to my parents. We like the boy and his parents like my daughter.